HOW / WHY TRAUMATIC EVENTS AFFECT US

As a trauma therapist for 30 years, the last 11 as a psychologist ,
I am happy to answer general questions; about her murder, or violence against women.
Feel free to ask anything related to surviving a loved one's murder, or anything else like..........
a)Why do people respond differently to traumatic events?
b)Will I always have these intense symptoms from these "bad" events.
b1) A survivor myself of trauma before Brittany's murder, I know and believe someone doesn't have to live with all the intense initial responses to these awful events.You don't hvae to live damaged for your whole life. Many people dealing with losses of homicide, sickness etc,including me find doing something in honor of your lost loved one helps the grief.
b2)You can use the anger at whoever or whatever took your loved one to not let their actions consume you 24/7. 3)One thing that will keep you in a "bad" place is being consumed with why, why did this happen. We think if we can make sense of it we will feel better NOT! Searching for the "why" blocks the grieving because you wait to grieve until you understand. There is no why? It happened. c)If you experienced "problems with notifications, ongoing investigations, trials, etc., let me know. I train 1st responders to homicides etc because of the many "issues" related to notifications to not being asked if I wanted to view her body(none of this done out of meaness but lack of awarenss that what they think is protective can hurt). PLEASE REMEMBER YOU CAN DO A COMMENT HERE OR EVEN BETTER SEND EMAIL TO therapoet@aol.com